“I was crying day and night; not knowing what I was going to do and how long I would stay here. It was so hard for me to accept living in the camp inside a tent”
ASMAR WITH HER SEVEN CHILDREN
Asmar and her seven children live together in small room put together with aluminum and plastic in Domiz Camp. Asmar's husband is completely paralyzed and is still in Syria, where he is receiving medical treatment.
Having no income, 37-year-old Asmar, was struggling to support her family. There was a time when she was selling her furniture piece by piece in order to feed her children.
Asmar's eldest son, 15-year-old Kamil, has medical problems related to his growth. His body size and strength is more like that of a ten-year-old. Asmar had been told that Kamil needs extensive long-term treatment, which it very expensive. As much as she wanted and tried, this was not something she would be able to provide.
Last year, Asmar started building up her baking and business skills, and became a part of the all female team setting up the Jeena Sweet Factory. For the first time since she left Syria, she is able to maintain a stable income for her children and has high hopes for their future.
"I have started having hopes again. Hopes of repairing the damage and starting again."
Like Hazni, Jiyan was born in Derke and moved to Damacus when she got married ten years ago. War was one of the 28-year-old and mother of two's biggest fears.
When the conflict broke out, Jiyan saw young girls being forced to go and fight, with no parental consent and no age limit. She was scared that she or her daughters might be forced against their will to align with a political group and fight.
After a year of war, Jiyan fled Syria with her family. Her husband became very ill and was diagnosed with cancer around the time of their one year anniversary of living in Domiz camp. Since they could not afford treatment in Iraq, they had no choice but to return to Syria.
Jiyan's husband died in March 2014. Dictated by a traditional view of preserving a widow's reputation, Jiyan's in-laws forced her to stay in Syria with her two children. With the enduring conflict, life was extremely difficult. Jiyan could not stop thinking about her own parents, who were living back in Domiz camp. Wanting to be close to her parents increased the tension between Jiyan and her husband's family.
Jiyan's father-in-law forced her to leave but without her children. Jiyan's daughter was unable to cope with the arrangement and was eventually sent to be with her mother in Iraq. The 6-year-old girl is still dealing with severe depression induced by her father's death and separation from her mother.
“My daughter doesn't let anybody take pictures of her. She has no friends at school, always quiet and sad. This makes me feel worse day after day. I took her to a psychiatrist but we haven’t seen any improvement in her condition.
Everyday, I also think about my son, who is far away from me, and it weakens my soul."
“The sweet factory is opening a new door for me. I have beliefs in it hoping that I can manage a business that would ensure my children's future.”
Jiyan is hoping she will have custody of all her five children and be able to support them soon.